Why I Didn't Want a Diamond Engagement Ring
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Dating is a truly scary experience when you think about it. You choose another person to spend time with and open yourself up to knowing that it could have one of two outcomes. You will either marry this person or you will break up. It’s that simple. So when you find someone that you truly think you want to spend the rest of your life with, it’s exciting! I knew early on into our relationship that I was going to marry Peter. I just had a feeling, you know? We just click so well in way that I’ve never experienced with another person. But it wasn’t until probably 2 years into dating that we actually discussed the idea of getting married.
We had been dating long distance for the entire beginning of our relationship. So when college graduation neared, we had to decide what our next steps were. Was I going to move to Baltimore? Was Peter going to move to Philadelphia? Ultimately we decided I would move to Baltimore and that we would find an apartment TOGETHER. That’s when things got serious. The Five Year Plan conversation happened and luckily we were both on the same page. We wanted to get engaged but we agreed that we probably should live together first. (I had heard horror stories of couples moving in together and their relationship blowing up into flames)
Then there was the next serious step: Engagement Ring Shopping. I went into this whole experience knowing “exactly” what I wanted. I wanted a white gold thin diamond pave band with a solitaire diamond. So we shopped around. I literally picked out the exact one I wanted. We kept looking just to make sure I was set on it and no other ring seemed to change my mind. Until about 6 months later.
(previously chosen white gold diamond ring)
When you go shopping for an engagement ring, there’s one thing you may or may not notice. Every ring that the sales associate will show you, every ring in the jewelry case will have a diamond it and it will likely be white gold. I looked at tons and tons of rings but they were all some sort of variation of white gold and diamonds. But at the time, I thought nothing of it.
One day I had been browsing Pinterest, looking at wedding boards as any girl with engagement rings on her mind does. I came across a board of pins with unique looking engagement rings. Ones with sapphires, ones with intricate gold bands and so on. It kind of blew my mind. When I had been thinking about getting engaged and picking an engagement ring, I just went with what I thought the “norm” was. A standard white gold diamond ring. Which everyone and their mother has. Not to say it’s bad thing but it’s common.
After that I fell into deep Pinterest black hole, ultimately discovering morganite. Morganite is a gemstone just like Sapphires or Emeralds but a bit more rare. It was discovered in Madagascar by J.P. Morgan, hence the name. It is a beautiful peachy-pink stone that looks incredible on a rose gold setting. I then shared all of this with Peter who agreed that this looked so beautiful and unique. Peter did his research and decided to then contact our local jeweler to make a custom ring for me. A thin rose gold diamond pave band with a cushion cut morganite stone. The ring of my dreams that I never knew existed.
Fast forward a couple months and Peter is proposing to me at sunrise on the beach. This was the first time I actually got to see my ring and I was floored, it was more beautiful than I could have imagined. Now, 9 months later, and I’m still just as obsessed with it. Peter even got me morganite earrings for my birthday to match.
One thing to note if you too decide that you like morganite is that it can be a tricky stone. While they may be “cheaper” than a diamond, a quality morganite stone is NOT cheap. You have to be cautious of artificial morganite stones and poor quality ones that are sold cheap.
I’m so happy to have discovered morganite stones and how you can have a variety of options for an engagement ring that aren’t just diamonds. I love being able to show off my unique ring and know that it will still be beautiful for many years to come.