How to Navigate a Negative Funk
I have to come clean and be honest with you; I’ve been in a negative funk lately that I couldn’t get out of. Whether it was mercury in retrograde, stress from the wedding or stress from work, I found myself constantly in a negative state. I couldn’t see the positives of anything and just kept getting down on myself. I was taking my negativity out on those around me and it was starting to take a toll on me.
Finally, I was at work one day reflecting on my mood and disposition lately and I texted Peter: “I’ve been in such a negative funk lately I’m not sure why”. He let me know that he was WELL AWARE that I hadn’t been myself haha. We went back and forth for about an hour on how I could get out of it. Peter guided me through all of the positives currently in my life and what I had to be thankful for. “Just snap out of it!”, he told me.
That was about 2 weeks ago and thankfully I have “Snapped Out of It” and I’m sharing how. Sometimes it’s not going to always going to be sunshine and rainbows in your life, even when everything seems perfect on paper. And sometimes it can be hard to dig yourself out of that black hole. But here’s what has worked for me and I hope it helps you too!
You’ve probably seen people mention and recommend everywhere that every morning you should write down three things you are grateful for. Personally, that’s not my style. Writing those things out feels forceful to me and hasn’t helped in the past. But what has helped is to just mentally step back, take a deep breathe and go through everything in my life and look at the positives. When I did this two weeks ago it sounded something like this: “You are about to marry your best friend, You’re doing a great job at the company you love, You are about to go to freaking Hawaii”. This really helped me because lately I had been stressed about the wedding, stressed about work and was only thinking about the negatives surrounding all of these things. I’m blessed to be able to live the life I do and to have the things I do, that’s what is important.
This is something I’ve always always struggled with. I’m constantly on the go go go and never thinking of myself. I am always thinking about how I can make others lives easier and never thinking about myself and slowing down. Therefore, I ultimately wear myself down which I’m sure has a MAJOR impact on my negative funk. Taking time for yourself whether that’s taking a bath, watching a funny movie or reading a book you’ve been eyeing; it’s important to fuel your soul. I took one day this past Labor Day weekend to truly focus on fueling my soul. I took a morning class at Bar Method which always helps put me in a positive mood, I took a warm bath and I watched the new “To All the Boys I’ve Loved Before” (highly recommend!) and I felt instantly better. Taking time for yourself can seem selfish and unnecessary but it is so much more important.
3. Seeking Help.
I had put myself in this little negative bubble where I was constantly in my head and lashing out at those around me. When I finally reached out to Peter and admitted that I hadn’t been myself and that I needed to figure it out, it became “Our” problem not just my own. By reaching out to those around you whether that be your significant other, a friend or family member it can help take all of that negativity energy off your shoulders. After having that long talk with Peter, while I wasn’t 100% “cured”, I felt like it was doable to get back to my normal self.
Whether you’re just having a bad day or you’ve been in a dark hole for awhile, it can seem like things won’t get better. But I promise there’s a light at the end of the tunnel and you’ll get there! Everyone has their tough times and you can’t always be happy. But by focusing on yourself and all the positives in your life, I’m sure it will help.
I hope I’ve helped at least one other person by sharing my story today and I hope that you’ll check in on yourself to make sure you’re not sitting in a dark hole either.